How much do you value yourself?

If someone was to ask you, how much are you worth? Most people would immediately think of the monetary value of their assets and resources.  It is normal to get this type of response from people.  If the question was, how valuable are you?  Still, the majority would think of it in the financial aspect. What I am talking about is simply, how much value do you place on yourself. The response to this question can significantly determine whether your results are successful or not.

 

There is a large amount of people who underestimate their own value.  These people often feel that they have less potential or promise, than their counterparts.  When people do not value themselves, they usually do not achieve their goals and are resentful of those, who are more successful than them. One of the simplest ways to be successful is to elevate your value and self-confidence.  People who have desire and focus to accomplish the impossible, are those who become successful.  Everyone has the innate ability to place worth upon themselves.  Unfortunately, we allow people and other outside influences to unravel our confidence. Learning and practicing to maintain your focus is a crucial skill. Once you are able to converge upon your ambition, the only thing left is to work your plan.

 

When I was in the hospital with the LVAD (left ventricular assist device), my necessity to rely upon others, really affected my self-worth.  I felt as if I would require assistance for the rest of my life.  One day while I was feeling sorry for myself, I started looking around the hospital hallway and realized that there were patients who were bedridden and in much worse condition, than I.  Finally, I came to the conclusion that this was just another bump in the road.  I had to do what was necessary to get on the transplant list, so I can’t live the life that I wanted.  There wasn’t a day that would go by, that I would not dream of the day that I could be free of this device.  To be able to swim, run, jump and do all the things that healthy people do was my focus. As I wrote in one of my previous blog articles “One Mailbox at a Time” http://wp.me/p1B8gy-1x, there were people, who were essential in my comeback.

 

Once I had in my mind, the vision of getting on that list; that is where the hard work came in.  The recommendation for physical therapy was to try to exercise at least three days a week.  Once I was able to do the three days a week, I then increased it to five days a week.  While going to the cardiac rehabilitation, I started to go back to the YMCA that I belong to.  I still remember the first time I walked in there, after having my LVAD, the resident nurse had never dealt with someone who had this device.  I think she was more nervous of having me in the facility, then I was of being there.  After a couple of months, I was going to rehab three times a week, going to the YMCA five times a week and started doing a mile to two-mile walk with my dog, after my exercise time.  This was more exercise than I ever done, in my entire adult life.  There were days where I was so sore that I wanted to quit, but my focus was so good, that on those days I would work extra hard.  One time, I actually walked up to 5 miles, without realizing.  I had gotten into the habit of covering up the distance counter with a towel, in order not to anticipate the distance.  On that particular day, I remember thinking about going on a cruise, with my wife to the islands.  In my mind I actually, saw myself walking through the beach holding her hand and enjoying all the beautiful scenery and reminiscing how far we had come.  Obviously, I got so caught up in my daydream that I lost total track of time and distance.  Once I actually saw the distance that I had walked, I was surprisingly amazed.

 

If you focus on the end results, instead of reasons why something cannot get accomplished, you too, would surprise yourself of what you are capable of doing. My old NYPD partner, had a massive heart attack, a couple of days after Christmas.  Luckily he survived, and his cardiologist told him that he had to lose about 50 pounds or so, in order to improve his diabetes and his heart condition.  He witnessed firsthand, my whole medical ordeal, from start to finish.  On one of his visits, he jokingly told me, that this wasn’t the way I was meant to go out.  Having worked together for so long, we had some trying moments, and we always came through with a victory.  When I heard of this situation, I helped in any way that I possibly could.  Seeing him in the hospital, brought back some disturbing memories of what I’ve been through.  As with most people in the similar situation, his biggest concern was his wife and kids.  We both talked about having a scary wake-up call and he affirmed to me that if everything went well, he would change his life around. It has been only six months and I am extremely proud to say that we had lunch together last week.  He has lost an astonishing 112 pounds, has absolutely controlled his diabetes and has an extremely high level of energy.  His focus is to lose another 20 or so pounds, continue his exercise regimen and get back to work, as soon as the doctor clears him. His whole disposition has changed and is an ideal example of what you can accomplish, if you put your mind to it.

 

Just this weekend, while I was channel surfing, I came across the triathlon that was held in Florida.  I really do not follow this sport, but it was just amazing to see the competitive spirit that people have, at all levels. The event included a 2 mile swim, a 56 mile bicycle race and a 13 mile marathon; that in itself is quite an accomplishment.  The amazing part is this, there were a number of participants who had disabilities, but this one particular man stood out more than the rest.  His leg was amputated below the knee and  his hand was amputated, below his wrist.  He completed all the events and finished in one of the faster brackets.  My wife had tears in her eyes as she saw him running past people, without any apparent disabilities.  Unfortunately, I did not catch his name, but I will never forget the determination that I saw in his face. He is a role model that shows anybody can overcome adversity.

These are just a couple of examples of how people who value themselves can accomplish great feats.  So the next time, someone asks you how much you value yourself, don’t sell yourself short. Believe in yourself and draw strength in knowing that many others have found their worth and have realized their dreams.  We all have a purpose in life, it is up to you to fulfill your destiny. There is no limit to what you can accomplish, when you put your heart and mind to it.

 

 

 

2 Responses to How much do you value yourself?

  • Evelyn says:

    In that triatholon there is also a catholic nun that is over 80 yrs old and always fishes the race. She has been doing this for a while. She is amazing she relies on her faith to finish, all heart. Over 80 yrs old always does the race.

  • Bonnie says:

    this blog should anyone print out and put on every train in london

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German (Sal) & Milja Saldarriaga
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My Life Experience

  • Retired New York City police officer
  • coping with heart disease since 1996
  • had defibrillator/pacemaker implanted in Oct 2003
  • had Left Ventricular Assist Device (LVAD) implanted in September 2009
  • Received heart transplant September 2010.
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